Or, you know, they just happen to be blessed with a 150 IQ, and soak up knowledge like a sponge.
Intelligence is everybit as accidental as looks. The more important question is what you do with either one...
I think the same (in D&D terms, intelligence != widsom 
). At the end of the day you're just choosing someone by some particular genetic traits. Which is as shallow as it gets.
no real luck with females either, I suspect it is sort of the same thing as with HR people.
Perhaps if you stop thinking of them as "females"?
they are female though, I am male.
each type of person looks for a compatible person of the opposite gender (usually), or to find someone who best serves their interests.
ex, as a male I would be looking for someone who is a female, and generally falls within "reasonable limits" in terms of personal and practical compatibility.
like, basically, needed is the ability to get along, presumably have some common interests, (basically) compatible moral beliefs, ... as well as things like probably at least one of us would need a source of income, ...
granted, presumably each person presumably needs things to offer to make them valuable, but which exact things they are will not always be the same.
not having a whole lot to offer though doesn't really help matters (as in, in most regards, I am probably fairly useless).
the drawback of being useless though is being alone, potentially indefinitely.
likewise, HR people probably see it similarly, hence no replies for jobs.
like, to the great question which holds society together, "what's in it for me?".
if a person can't give a good answer, then there is no deal, and said person is passed over and ignored.
like, each person having value to others in the sense that they have the ability to give the other person what they want out of the situation, and likewise will try to get what they want out of the other person, ...
then people basically just go along trying to stay "ahead of the curve" so as to not be forsaken by those around them, ...
though in a way this seems like a sad way to see things, it seems to match fairly well with observations and predictions.
granted, even as such, people will generally stick within the confines of social conventions (and sometimes also moral conventions, but this is hit and miss, and people often get into big arguments over this topic, *1).
*1: usually this aligns with whatever is "the right thing", which tends to be one of:
causing the most benefit for the most people;
minimizing the amount of societal harm due to a given type of behavior;
avoiding needlessly self-destructive behavior (*2).
*2: while it seems like self-destructive behavior is solely harmful to the individual, typically it will also have an adverse effect on those around them, and indirectly this type of behavior will harm society as a whole.
while not wanting to argue specifics here (sadly, not everyone agrees on these matters, and trying to state my views here would likely just create needless controversy), it would seem to be the case that these things exist, and are more-or-less universally binding (and largely independent of the personal opinions of those involved).
though, not exactly the same, similar also seems to apply to things like traditions and holidays and similar as well (they are binding de-facto).
like, a person may seemingly be subjugated to them, but ultimately they, and society as a whole, benefits by their faithful observance.
(well, among other controversial things I could say on all this...).
or such...
