Quote: Original post by Oluseyi
[...]I can't see why I'd want to, other than to "fit in" and "do what's expected," which doesn't seem like a good enough reason. Naturally, they either say I'm stalling or that I'll see in a few years. I doubt it.

The legal benefits can be helpful depending on the kind of relationship you have with your girlfriend. My fiance and I certainly look forward to them.

To those who do not wish to have kids. I am curious. If you care to humour me, how do your mothers feel about this?

Quote: Original post by Daerax
To those who do not wish to have kids. I am curious. If you care to humour me, how do your mothers feel about this?

What does that have to do with it? I would think basing such an important decision on what my mother wanted me to do, would be the epitome of bad reasoning. If she wants to weigh in on a topic thats her business, but someone's desire to be a grandmother should never be a reason for having kids.

or are you suggesting that someone saying they do not wish to have kids is some how a slight to one's own mother and everything she has done in the name of raising her child?

Fortunately for me, my mother has never, ever asserted her own desires onto me or my sister. I've noticed many others out there are not as fortunate. Either way mom doesn't get a vote.

Quote: Original post by Extrarius
The legal benefits can be helpful depending on the kind of relationship you have with your girlfriend.

In other words, "if you're married in everything but name." If I'm uncertain that I intend to remain in my relationship for even another two years, should I get married for the "legal benefits"?

Exactly. I know that's not what you were suggesting, but I feel strangely compelled to point out that the legal benefits are only valuable to people who intend to remain together for a long enough duration that the legal penalties of any potential separation would be worth it. I have a friend who got married (too quick, IMO), had a baby and got divorced within a year. Two years later he's remarried, too. I feel that he's striving to project an air of "success," which I think he interprets as "being an established professional, married and affluent."

Yeah, I don't want to be him.

Quote: Original post by Daerax
To those who do not wish to have kids. I am curious. If you care to humour me, how do your mothers feel about this?

I don't know. I've never discussed this with my mother, and I really don't think I need to. I'm sure she'll ask at some point - probably as I approach 35 or 40 and remain unmarried - at which point I'll inform her that as much as I love kids, I love me more. She's already dealt with my lack of religious faith and still loves me ([smile]), so I think she'll get over it.

Girlfriend for over 3 years. Up until recently she's been cool with my gaming/programming side, but now she's getting annoyed. (mocking me) "If I stop programming for one night to take my girlfriend out, it will just break and die!" hehe.

For the record, I'm single. Whether I'm single or seeing someone, I'm happy either way.

I'd like to get married and have lots of kids to love, but that's probably not going to happen any time in the near future. I'm too picky about who I like, and that's perfectly fine by me :)

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Quote: Original post by mikeman
27 yrs old, never had, and it's very improbable that I'll ever have.

I seriously doubt its because I'm a game programmer(if I can call myself that, I'm just amateur) though, it's got to do with my looks and personality. Both not very girl-friendly :P

Glad to see so many gamedevvers have normal and happy love lives though!

eHarmony. Might seem goofy, but I can say it does work :)

I remember an epic post in the Help Wanted forum of someone looking to date a female programmer.
It was years ago and I can't find it in the archives, so I don't know of it ever worked out.

Quote: Original post by phresnel
I vote for the original post be rephrased "how many of you devs have a significant other?", that's more apolitical and maybe we'd get more input.

Ah, so you just assume everyone here is a developer? That's like so... discrimminatorioussly!


Not steady relationship at the moment, but I'm not worried: I don't play video games more than twice a month, I'm not particularly interested in science fiction and I dislike all this fantasy related stuff, so I'm highly compatible with mainstream society. [wink]

Wife of 5+ years. Not a gamer except for wii bowling and a brief stint playing Halo at lan parties with me ("I want to be pink!").

none at the moment, but hopefully soon :P

Quote: Original post by BeanDog
Me!

Obviously photoshopped.