In response to your inquiry, it seems to me you're in a situation where you have a very refined expectation of what you want - you want to marry a perfect princess, for the lack of a better analogy - which makes you dismiss everything that doesn't meet up to that standard. Granted, the women you've met are pretty fucked up and it doesn't really support my point that well.

I still suggest you give this one a shot. He (or she) will have the same feelings for you any other woman could have. Just because he's a transvestite doesn't mean the relationship can't be true.

In any case, you should definitely talk to him about the way you feel towards his revelation.

Transgender != Transvestite, let's get that one clear from the get-go. This is a person that was formerly physically male, but is now effectively physically female, and chances are you'd never have known if this person hadn't been up front before meeting you.

Admitting to something that unusual is a difficult thing to do, as it has the potential to scare away any potential new friend or partner immediately. I think the best course of action might be for you to meet this person and talk about it. You'll either come out enlightened, or mutually happy that you've had this discussion and that you've not wasted one another's time any further.

I did, and there is no question that I am really trying to base my actions under consideration of this person.

Fair enough, I literally skipped the entire thread when I saw the time limit and when it was posted.

They really hate Asian foreigners.

Westerners get a pass. At least mostly. Some of them really hate the fact that we are here in their country. But they are such an extreme minority they don’t count.

They really hate Chinese and Korean foreigners.

I was under the impression they also hated Westerners going by what I've heard from other people, to the point one has to avoid yakuza areas at all costs if one wishes to remain alive. I guess it depends on the region (since the yakuza is quite divided after all, it isn't a single giant faction).

The yakuza doughter is godlike! I wonder what the witch looked like! And definetely you kaukazian europian should reproduce with asians, you are gonna produce a super human! In eugenics a combination between asian-kaukazian is called somehow, but I do not remember what it is called.

To end the story, I messaged her saying she would probably be a good friend but I am not willing to meet (it would complicate things etc.), and I wished her good luck in her pursuit.

She thanked me for my reply and for being nice about letting her down.

L. Spiro

t’s exactly the opposite to say that we are alive to breed. It’s our built-in desire to breed that is the reason we are alive. No species without self-preservation and a desire to reproduce has ever continued as a species.

Thnx, this is usually hard to put into words but you did ^_^

Sorry to resurrect a fairly old, and resolved topic. The concept of potentially having a child of mixed heritage interests me personally because I'm one-quarter Japanese three quarters white. I think you might consider the problems dating someone who comes from a completely different culture more carefully however. You must already be aware that Japanese people are often very interdependent in comparison with Americans (as I assume you are). While a few of the responses were ridiculous, I think you didn't really provide us with enough information to really help you. There are special considerations to take when advising whether a person should date another when you probably won't ever be a Japanese citizen, and may have to leave the country on short notice. Some relationships will lead to children, which only complicates matters. I found your original post hilarious however, and I hope the dating scene is going well for you even so. I don't have much experience with it, but if you have any more issues with it I think there are more than a few people who wouldn't mind giving helpful advice. I always enjoy hearing about life in Japan. I've never been there myself.

When it comes to who I am willing to date (or engage on any form of romantic level) etc., no external source will have an influence.

So it’s not so much about seeking advice, but about sharing a “what the hell” story while also engaging people in discussion on their own personal terms. If you found my first post hilarious then it served half of its purpose, and if you shared your own thoughts then it served its other half.

I have shared a bit more about life in Tokyo here: http://www.gamedev.net/topic/647363-the-daily-sights-of-tokyo/

Certainly a city worth a visit.

If interested, I can certainly share more “what the hell” stories about Japan in another topic.

Train suicides, drunken fights (I was not the drunk one), car thieves, Yakuza encounters, 3-11…

An author who works at Namco-Bandai has been hitting me up on trying to write a book about the true stories I have to tell, though for a post here I would only stick to the ones about Japan.

L. Spiro

Sorry for not responding in a while. Christmas you know... I think any stories would be interesting. That author guy sounds intersting too, maybe you should take him up on that offer.