My viewpoint is, if you want it that bad try to find people who are willing to do it.
But, as said before, I think you will be dissapointed, the problem is a psychological one. Try to get over it and proceed with life.

Quote: Original post by Toolmaker
...Herr Kanzler...

Klopf! [grin]

Hmm, many comic book, manga, film heroes often have their parents died young or have adopted parents.

As much as that's a cliche and has the purpose of gaining the audience's pity and others, having no parents is probably a cool fantasy for many youngsters. Yet you want the contrary.

And why not befriend a local community of elderly persons? Volunteer at elderly homes? You can foster a parent/child relationship without being explicitly adopted; the act of which is ripe for second-guessings and doubts

In short, I have nothing to add really. But reading this makes me invision House (from the show House MD), yelling at you trying to fulfill something, that won't feel right and is un-natural.

As someone else said, being close with someone (g/f, mentor, etc), is going to fulfill just as much. Maybe you should try to be a father figure to someone, maybe like some kind of big brother thing you can do.

Quote: Original post by rumble
Hmm, many comic book, manga, film heroes often have their parents died young or have adopted parents.

As much as that's a cliche and has the purpose of gaining the audience's pity and others, having no parents is probably a cool fantasy for many youngsters. Yet you want the contrary.

And why not befriend a local community of elderly persons? Volunteer at elderly homes? You can foster a parent/child relationship without being explicitly adopted; the act of which is ripe for second-guessings and doubts

Words of wisdom here.^^

If all you want is a shoulder to cry on, and someone to visit on the holidays, it seems rather strange that you want them to officially adopt you...

As others have suggested, make friends with older people, offer to help them with chores, etc. If you need advice, a lot of older people will happily listen to your problems and offer it just for the pleasure of someone to speak with.

Yesterday I went to the hospital to meet with my counsellor. Also went to apply for animation start-up grant. Anyway too busy & sick I decided one day off without internet.


kanzler : @Those attending Oregon State University: Invest in a bullet proof vest. Seriously...

ha ha ha. If it's a joke, I don't think it's funny. Go to my site, saw the link on the below left? the one that say OSU Campaign? I linked to here http://osufoundation.org/index.htm . This is how much I love OSU after reading The Oregon Starter mentioning the campaign.


ToolMaker : I have to agree with Herr Kanzler here. We all had demons in our past.

I need parental love to cure me from these demons.

Salsa : I'm willing to bet you've never had a girlfriend, or even a really close friend who's a girl. That's not a smear, it's an educated guess. Trust me. Adult relationships aren't meaningless contracts that may or may not end up in Divorce Court TV

Salsa, you've just won your bet. It's not that I'm not looking, it's just that I'm screwed up beyond recognition by my parents. i'm not sure if girls want this kind of person :

http://www.gamedev.net/community/forums/topic.asp?topic_id=205107

http://hugi.scene.org/online/hugi32/hugi%2032%20-%20real%20life%20misc%20fable%20fox%20trauma.htm

http://hugi.scene.org/online/hugi32/hugi%2032%20-%20real%20life%20misc%20fable%20fox%20the%20ship%20is%20burning.htm

(if the two link above is too cryptic and didn't work, go here http://fablefox.com/blog/?page_id=19 and click on "the ship is burning" and "trauma". may read other article if you want, though.

Looking back at the game dev post, I can't believe it takes me almost 5 years just to start furthering my studies (I register for my degree early this year). I can only apply for a study loan because of my current job. Couldn't get for any scholarship. I don't have a house, or a car, and riding a borrowed ten your old Modenas Kriss 110 ( http://ms.wikipedia.org/wiki/Modenas ), renting a small room at USD 54.73. Current economy doesn't help either. Maybe my salary will improve when I receive my degree. And I plan to go straight to MBA. Wasted too many years doing odd job.

I seriously don't know. I want a woman worthy to be the mother to my future children. The problem is I'm not worthy enough to be the husband for these type of woman - because they themself want a husband worthy to be the father of their children. My past and current life situation doesn't help.



kseh : And what if your expectations are too high?

Actually, my expactations isn't that high. Look at Alice Jones case, she herself is a succesful programmer. On the other case, the woman is a succesful book author. They alreay have all they want - except parental love - if you watch Alice Jones video.


Marmin : My viewpoint is, if you want it that bad try to find people who are willing to do it.

I'm doing it. Just waiting for the return mail.


MortusMaximus : If all you want is a shoulder to cry on, and someone to visit on the holidays, it seems rather strange that you want them to officially adopt you...


Actually it doesn't have to be official. The point is that a lot of people doing this to a point it become a law. I just want to prove that what I'm planning to do is not that strange. So I don't really care about this offical / non-official thing.

Maniac Wolf, this is pretty crazy. It seems that an adult adoption is usually done for legal/economic reasons, if not then it's for an extreme emotional "screwed up" reason, no offense. Whereby the latter is where your case lies.

From reading your posts, it sounds like you've undergone some traumatic experiences in your life. Or maybe you're in a deep-rooted depression. Whatever the case, it does sound like you need to do something to sort yourself out, otherwise you may spiral out of control, and likely kill yourself, or something. Which would be a shame since you're a very talented individual with a lot of drive, and obviously have unfinished contributions to the world.

You know what, I'm gonna say, give it a try. My initial thoughts are parents are for children as in under 18's. After that the roles reverse, and the parents become the children (believe me, I've been financially supporting my parents almost entirely for the past 10 years. Although emotionally they've been there for me, and vice-versa. Which I guess is really akin to a deep rooted friendship, than any one-way traffic of affection.). But yeah, you need to do something. Try it, and report your findings here. But you've got better chances losing your 30 year-old virginity and finding a girlfriend, than getting adopted by the Tolchucks from Ohio :).

btw: are you paying 57 bucks/day rent? that's about as much as I pay here in London...

Quote: Original post by FableFox
I need parental love to cure me from these demons.

Actually, I don't think you do. You need love in general, not parental love. You've outgrown the age for parental love. I seriously doubt adoption parents will be able to give you the love that you need, the kind of affection a parent shows for their child.

An adoption parent at this age will be very different, because it's for them very difficult to care for you from the start. With a child there's still the innocence in a young child that makes adoption easy, and the affection for such a child grows really fast, because you're busy with taking care of that child all the time.

But, facing and kicking your inner demons in the balls won't happen with (adopted) parents. There is only 1 person who can overcome your fears, anxieties and limitations, and that person is YOU. Noone else can do that for you, and with their support, it won't be any easier, even tho you might think so now.

Seriously, go out and make something of your life. Don't keep looking back to your past but look ahead, like I said before. Find a few hobbies that include women for a change. Go and learn international ballroom/latin dancing, or salsa.

Toolmaker

It's 57 per month.

I'm not stopping to look for a woman. I moved into book writing, too bad most woman is already married and old (young ones too busy with their career to write a book here, at least at the club / group I'm joining)

So I bought a left handed guitar and try to move into the indie music scene. But this is a many pronged attack.

I went for local IGDA meeting, mostly males - but this is to be expected, heh.

I want to give this special "parent" a year or two. If I failed to get them, then advert at OSU it will.