I think it's a great idea. How much does it cost?

EDIT: lol@your_reply. (it doesn't necesarily needs to be an older woman)

Mmm... Given your situation, I think I'd look for a 'Mentor'.

Same role division, a LOT easier to find, more socially acceptable.

... why would those arguments matter? Because it increases your fishing pond :D

Quote: Original post by FableFox
Some might say, "What's the point? Go get married and have a wife!" Yes. But statistically speaking, lots of marriages end with a divorce. Now your inlaws are no longer your mom and dad. Not to mention, should something happen between you and your partner, they are probably not going to side with you.

Not to mention it's a double whammy. You are losing your partner, and at the same time you need love and support - you also lose your mom and dad (in law).

I think the point is that you would get married because your wife fills the emotional "void" you have, not her parents.

And sure, you might get divorced, but what makes an "adult adoption" different that they might not also want to "divorce" (for want of a better word) at some point in the future?

there are two void that I want to fill

- paternal love (father)
- maternal love (mother)

as for girlfriend / wife, I'm in the keep looking process. But even if I found one, I still get my foster mother / father. Since partner consent is needed, it's better for me to find it before getting married.

Still, nice point. But it's not that weighted, since the relationship is not "pushed" like marriages. For example, you can visit them on weekend. you can do anything you like in your own time, with your own money. it's not like husband / wife where the relationship is on 24 hours.

Points taken, but I don't much separation for adult adoption. unlike child in a foster care where they moved from one house to another (but that not adoption). Hmmm.. a nice research needed here. >>.. tab to Google ..>>

All my grandparents died when I was still to young to know them. Would they have around there any grandparents to borrow?

What about foster friends? <- Now that's an idea.

To be honest, it does sound to me like you need to get professional help. If you already have said help, stick with it.

That said, the issue of adults adopting adults did pop into my mind randomly a few years ago and I did question the whole situation. Would it be weird for a man in his forties to be adopted by an elderly couple in their eighties?

Yes, I think so.

Are you prepared to support your adopted parents when they get older and their health begins to decline? For a couple willing to adopt, I think that would be an important consideration.

Quote: Original post by ukdeveloper
To be honest, it does sound to me like you need to get professional help. If you already have said help, stick with it.

Are you impliying that he might be completely out of his mind for being obsessed with the idea of getting adopted at 30 and posting it in a game development forum?

I think you're being a little to harsh.

How many years had John when he got "adopted" by Mary?

after searching numberous keywords

adult adoption terminated
adult adoption cancelled
adult adoption closed
adult adoption cut loose
and other combination I forgots :
I came to a interesting keywords
adult adoption reversed

Now do I get useful links:

1) http://en.allexperts.com/q/Family-Law-Divorce-920/2008/2/Reverse-Adult-Adoption.htm

2) http://community.lawyers.com/forums/adoptions/34081.aspx

3) http://www.legalmatch.com/law-library/article/reversing-an-adoption.html

But nut much compared to divorced marriages.

4) http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2007/03/14/AR2007031400263_2.html

Now i have another interesting point... note the caption under the missing picture, adopted at the age of 42.

Quote: Original post by FableFox
1) http://en.allexperts.com/q/Family-Law-Divorce-920/2008/2/Reverse-Adult-Adoption.htm

Quote: Hi Marrissa,
I was adopted as an adult at age 33. Since then the relationship has deteriorated. She had several motives for adopting me that I was not aware of at the time. Since I have not met those expectations or satisfied her motives, she has been non-existent in my life.

At first that sounds kinda nasty...