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Current needs: want to break up my existing girlfriend at home with aim to achieve more sex. Her sex drive is currently very low, capping at around 1 night / month (setting up flowers is impossible for me - and also apparently for most other people seeing as the attempt itself is literally crap)

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Future wants: might want to set up with another girl at one point

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Looks and Personality: I really want to keep things down to earth. EU dating websites only, must be available to whole of Europe (not just the UK, which seems to be the case for most dating sites)

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Findings: A general WTH: finding a proper girl is like trying to hit that magic itching spot on your back that you just can't reach. Upon closer look most women are either reported to be really crap with them complaining about men, stability, support and reliability at least half the time or she is just demanding, which is pretty much a joke. The cold truth, though, is that most of them (including eHarmony and match.com) don't provide any appreciable selection of women at all. I only want a stable girlfriend without having to sell my house for it (even just 2 kids to support would be adequate TBH) and I've been scouring the webs for a reliable woman for several hours without any real luck. As far as I can tell, Areca is the top choice here, but her good looks seem to be seriously fake (really, Kim Kardashian look-a-like?)

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Confusion: why do many women list the most ridiculous demands as something like sensitive, but they are not even that good looking. This seems to be the case esp. on eHarmony. The really weird part of it is that most other websites don't post pictures at all (a lot like match.com versions not publicly listing their pictures *rolleyes*) . I'm still assuming that they have a minimum penis size requirement.

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So, if anyone here has any experience regarding setting up an online date, I'd really appreciate some input!

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I don't have much specific advice, but I can say online dating can be really hit and miss. I personally don't think it should be stigmatized at all; it's a totally legitimate way to find dates. I've had at some point or another a profile on both OkCupid and plentyoffish. I'm in the US--I'm not sure about the exposure of these sites in Europe. And, truth be told, I have (unintentionally!) found casual sex twice off OkCupid and a lot of other dates which just led nowhere. What I thought were going to be traditional dates turned into something less traditional, which actually bothered me since I wanted something serious--but that's for another time. And I'm currently seeing a pretty and very spiffy Mexican girl off PoF. I have had, I guess, a lot more success with these sites than most men report, and for that I am thankful. But nevertheless I cannot speak too optimistically about them.

Males are seriously at a disadvantage on these sites. It seems counter-intuitive, since in straight heterosexual relationships males and females are paired off one-to-one and the sites seem mainly to cater to such relationships, but it's just the reality. The culture, at least on OkCupid, has settled into this dynamic where women rarely if ever send out messages; men send out lots, often pretty good and personalized ones; women get inboxes stuffed full in no time and hence become ultra picky; and finally they either do go on a date with a guy or get creeped out by the response and leave the site.

My best advice, I suppose, is to maybe learn a social dance if you don't know one already. Find some friends who would like to go dancing with you once a week. If you don't have such friends right now, you might need to make a few new ones. And just expand your dating circle that way, through the dancing scene, in real life. I'm not talking about rave/clubs so much as I am talking about salsa clubs--places where people really are dancing. In the meantime, it certainly won't hurt you to have profiles on a few online dating sites, but I discourage you from putting too much time into them--and certainly be careful about investing your ego in them to any extent. Take the dates you can get from them, but don't try to get your entire dating life from online sites.

Oh, and online dating is all about how good looking you are. That's all it comes down to. The profile just serves, for the most part, to convince the other party that you are to some reasonable extent an ordinary person. Only when you are on the date will anything like "sensitivity" enter the picture. It's not because people are shallow. It's because you simply cannot get to know a person through a little online profile.

Is this a joke? You want to find a new girlfriend because your current girlfriend doesn't want to have sex with you? Have you talked to her about your sex lives?

I'm guessing you're just Doing It Wrong™

You know, if I couldn't see the IP addresses, I'd swear that this was the result of a hacked account.

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Found your problem.

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Actually no, I wasn't hacked. It was just a joke. I happened to read irreversible's thread with the title cropped "Finding a suitable ", and I immediately thought of a girl-problem thread. After disappointed that he was just looking for a RAID card, I was wondering if I could turn the entire thread into what I thought it was.

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My copypasta detector triggered when it read "general WTH"

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