I don't understand how can suspension force contain load.
When you compress a spring, it produces a force proportional to the compression distance. The more you compress a spring, more force will produce.
Force = springRate * compressionDistance
If you have a single spring and put an unknown mass over it, then the spring will get compressed some distance until reaching an equilibrium. In this point, the force produced by the spring counteracts exactly the force produced by the mass (unknown) under the influence of gravity (no matter it's earth's gravity or moon's) and any other possible acceleration the unknown mass might be suffering. But as you know the spring rate and you can measure how much the spring has been compressed, you can get the actual force that is acting on the spring using the formula above. In a vehicle, the load on each wheel is calculated the same way, no matter the actual gravity value. In this case the suspension force is the same as load:
load = stiffness * compression + damper_rate * compression_speed
You don't need to account for the gravity, just the compression and compression speed for a suspension of known stiffness and damper rate. This article explains it in depth:http://vehiclephysics.com/advanced/how-suspensions-work/