I love my friends. I enjoy each and every one of their company. Whenever I can, I try and find some way to fit them into my busy schedule to hang out with them to play a game, watch a movie, or help them out with some personal project. I give them my time and treat them as I would want to be.

The problem is that they don't do the same for me. For a while, I purposefully would not contact them. When I would go back to my regular routine I'd hear stories about where they went or whatever and I'd ask [light-heartedly] "Why didn't you invite me?" and the response would be something along the lines of "You weren't there." (Um... Herp der??)

They won't help me in my time of needing-helpness. I'd call around for assistance with whatever it may be and they're just "too busy" or "don't want to". I'd completely understand if this was a one-time deal 'cause, hey, sometimes we just want a break. But this is all the time but I go out of my way to assist them with whatever it may be and try to help get them to a solution.

Another example. I'm in college and live in a dorm a little less than half a mile away from their dorms. I walk to their dorm just about everyday just to see them. But sometimes I want them to come over to my place and hang out with me but they'll complain it's too far away.

Also, I enjoy making small projects. Whether it be a short film, a comic idea, a song, or a simple game. I ask them if they are interested and want to help out. Sometimes it's just a "no" but other times they seem eager for the idea and seem to be really interested which gets me excited. And maybe we'll talk about it for a while. but eventually it all boils back to me and I realize I'm the only one doing anything. Weeks later they'll ask me "how's that/our project coming along?" and I want to slap them.

Sometimes I wonder if they forgot who I am. They treat me like I don't know half of the stuff I talk about anymore and treat me like I'm below their feet even though I'm the one helping them out half of the time.

I've known these guys since highschool. It's not like we just met either.

It really frustrates me. A lot.

I know that no one is perfect and we'll all have our flaws but I noticed this several months ago and it seems to keep getting worse and worse to the point I almost don't care if I see them for a week now. They don't seem to care all too much either. I don't hate them, but I'm not happy. And this is with -all- my friends by the way. Maybe it's got something to do with some strange college-asshole phenomenon or something. Maybe Steven Hawking could do some research on it for me.

And blah blah blah </end sappy sob story>

Anyway, what about you guys? Do you feel like your friends suck sometimes too?

Sounds like they aren't very good friends. Sometimes people drift apart, it happens.

You don't have to ditch your high school buddies, but I would suggest looking for new friends who are interested in similar things to yourself (and you of course ). Join a programming club/take up drawing lessons or a martial art/etc and you're bound to run into like-minded people eventually.

edit: Forgot to answer the question; none of my friends suck (else I wouldn't call them friends ). Also, ~6 years on, I only speak to three of my old high school buddies. People change and move onto different things after high school, such is life.

I see what you're saying. But we're all kind of a group. We get together as a whole. So most of the time it's not individually. It feels almost like I've been part of a "club" and some anonymous poll decided I shouldn't be allowed in anymore. I've noticed some of the ways they've all changed since the beginning of our college year. I suppose they are moving on but I feel like they're all moving on without me. And it just sucks. :|

I have been looking around for a few clubs and have showed up for several events and meetings but none are "clicking" for me yet.

Also, I enjoy making small projects. Whether it be a short film, a comic idea, a song, or a simple game. I ask them if they are interested and want to help out. Sometimes it's just a "no" but other times they seem eager for the idea and seem to be really interested which gets me excited. And maybe we'll talk about it for a while. but eventually it all boils back to me and I realize I'm the only one doing anything. Weeks later they'll ask me "how's that/our project coming along?" and I want to slap them.

ARGGHHH I hate this SO MUCH. Only thing people round me do is to watch TV or do equivalently nugatory things all the time :@

Even computer science students don't write single line of code except school projects and exams. I can't judge peoples tastes but .. ANYONE I really mean ANYONE?? This is driving me crazy

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I drifted from my HS friend, but I still sometimes catch up with a few of them since some go to my college are are local. I guess I never thought of it like in your situation. I used to hang out with my friends weekly for LAN parties and just generally staying up all night long. When I got to college I stopped doing that. I haven't really found anyone with my same interests even in the graduate program of my university.

It sounds like you're a pretty social person. Might try to make new friends.

Even computer science students don't write single line of code except school projects and exams.

That part annoys me. It's surprising how many students (even my coworkers who are juniors or seniors in their CS or CIS degrees) have no interest in programming outside of their degree. I showed my CS coworker a multiplayer game I made in the browser and instead of being like "cool how does it work", like an old CS graduate I knew, he was like "I bet that was hard" and goes back to facebook.

Speaking of that I prefer irc.afternet.org #gamedev as the community there is very friendly and intelligent. That seems to mostly fill my need for social interaction.

ARGGHHH I hate this SO MUCH. Only thing people round me do is to watch TV or do equivalently nugatory things all the time :@

Even computer science students don't write single line of code except school projects and exams. I can't judge peoples tastes but .. ANYONE I really mean ANYONE?? This is driving me crazy

[/Rage off]

Haha! Exactly! I even asked around after class one day if anyone wanted to help me with a project and some were all "sure!" and sent them emails with all the libraries and sources to get them all up-to-date but no one has replied or gotten back to me. I mean, I understand busy, but give me some courtesy.

Emm, Kanon, Eralp, Sirirsian, I'm pretty sure I have the answer for you...

GIRLS.

Yeah, some people are just d-bags like that. Like this one guy at my previous company. He's friendly, and even came to parties. We joked around, played games together. You might think we could be long time friends. Nope. I friended him on fb that time. Then he left the company, we still hung out. Then a few weeks later I realized he unfriended me on fb. So I added him back. A few months after, he dropped me out again. I was like "just wtf?" What's wrong with keeping ppl in your facebook especially those that you have actually met and hung out for a few months??

Kanon, you just gotta find your own life that doesn't involve your friends. Some people think they are too cool to hang out with you...

May I ask where you live?

It sounds like you've grown apart and you're trying keep the friendships going but they're not that bothered.

My friends are like that sometimes but I'm not a very sociable person, I don't drink, so I never get invites when they're out on the town. But, to be honest, I'll only be working where I am for another couple of months and then I'll never speak to the majority of them again so I'm not that bothered. Does that make me a bad person?

Emm, Kanon, Eralp, Sirirsian, I'm pretty sure I have the answer for you...

GIRLS.

This part is actually very accurate. More than half of them have some dumb relationship going on at the moment. :|
But the thing that irritates me is that I have a relationship that's lasted much longer than theirs but I'm not letting it be the ~focal attention of my life~
She's a girl. I like her. We talk, hang out, enjoy eachother company, and there's the end of story. I still find time for my friends.


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May I ask where you live?
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Tennessee. There's really not a lot here for me. I want to move in my future. "Hopefully" closer to my future job or whatever. [Currently a Computer Science Major]